One of the common tricks of any consistently manipulative and/or aggressively controlling individual is to trick YOU into believing that you are to blame for THEIR behaviour. Who am I talking about? Maybe a boss, supervisor, co-worker, colleague, staff member, or a client, customer or stakeholder.
One common method used by bullies to groom you into accepting that their behaviour as somehow YOUR fault, is to deliberately and rapidly SWITCH from being warm and friendly to suddenly aggressive, dismissive, rude or abusive. The bully infers that you are to blame for their abuse. Unless you cotton onto what's going on, you will most likely feel embarrassed or apologetic. You will assume that you're somehow in the wrong because this persistent & aggressive rudeness is so odd and unexpected.
YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS BEHAVIOUR - NO-ONE DOES! NOR ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BULLY'S BEHAVIOUR.
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