5 Steps To Stop Bullies From Tapping Into & Manipulating Your Deepest Fears, by Dr Flis

5 Steps To Stop Bullies From Tapping Into & Manipulating Your Deepest Fears, by Dr Flis

Are You A Slave To Your Internal Self-Critical voice?

DID YOU KNOW? Bullies are clever at tapping into, and manipulating, your internal self-critical beliefs, and using these against you.

Self-criticism is generally developed when we're very young and in our teenage years, when we experience criticism or disapproval from a key or important family member (mother, father, sibling) that leads us to develop the belief that we are inadequate, stupid, incompetent, or even friendless.

In adulthood, if we remain unaware of these critical 'stories', then we are more likely to interpret our life, our relationships - our reality - as evidence of our incompetence, inadequacy, or stupidity.

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How to forge greater meaning, compassion & creativity at work without feeling stupid or looking foolish - by Dr Flis

How to forge greater meaning, compassion & creativity at work without feeling stupid or looking foolish - by Dr Flis

Often, one of our deepest human fears is to look weak, stupid, or even foolish in front of others - especially in the face of constant change or uncertainty. Wouldn't it be great to have a simple tool that helped us forge greater meaning, compassion and creativity in the workplace without feeling or looking foolish?

How The Workplace Wish List Works

Most workplaces now conduct annual well-being or health surveys or pulse surveys. While these approaches can home in on the issues you already suspect, or are actively seeking, they can overlook the hidden concerns, fears, issues, worries percolating behind the scenes. Sometimes, our deepest worries are the ones we're the most oblivious to UNTIL someone asks us to write them down.

Click HERE to get your 5 Minute Workplace Wish List

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Expertly dodging bad behaviour before it turns toxic, by Dr Flis

Expertly dodging bad behaviour before it turns toxic, by Dr Flis

Expertly spotting & dodging bad behaviour BEFORE it turns toxic on you.... means knowing when others are behaving badly AND cleverly dodging them & their drama when things turn sour!

We've all been to at least one family Christmas lunch or dinner when the family 'pain in the ****' sinks one too many sherbets and turn into a bully.

I'm sure it's no surprise to anyone that badly behaving work colleagues (staff, bosses, etc.) can also turn into bullies, given the right set of circumstances (and without the alcohol!)

Below are some of the more obvious bad behaviours that you can learn to quickly spot. I also give simple better practice dodging methods, so you can stop the work relationship turning sour or toxic on you.

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Dr Flis: Your Secret Weapon In Safely Dealing With Bullies - Personal Power!

Dr Flis: Your Secret Weapon In Safely Dealing With Bullies - Personal Power!

Your Secret Weapon To Safely Dealing With Bullies Is By Using Your Personal Power. 19th century philosopher, Friedrich Nietzche, said that we create our own reality, which is created by our perspectives and filtered by our values and instincts. This means the only real control we have over anything, is HOW we choose to react to a situation, person or environment.

To get the full value out of this article by watching or listening to the short video snippet here, which I've taken from my 1 hour eCourse, 'How To Quickly Recognise & Control A Workplace Bully Without Getting Victimised', which you can enroll for free HERE.

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Are They A Bully, Or Just Having A Bad Day? Spotting The Difference by Dr Flis

Are They A Bully, Or Just Having A Bad Day? Spotting The Difference by Dr Flis

Quickly spotting the difference between a person who's having a bad day, and a workplace bully, can be critical - especially for your mental health, well-being and performance AND how you deal with the situation. Why? If you ignore a bully in the hopes that they'll go away or get bored, then beware - you will likely get burnt!

Why?

 

Because you can't ignore the bully in the hopes that they'll go away or get bored! The bully doesn't get bored, and doesn't go away. Instead, they escalate their toxic behaviour and make your life miserable!

Skill-up FAST & enroll in my free 1 hr eCourse 'How To Quickly Recognise And Control A Workplace Bully Without Getting Victimised'. Get the tactics that will help to change your life forever WITHOUT getting burnt in the process!

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My story on how I found my life's purpose by Dr Flis

My story on how I found my life's purpose by Dr Flis

In early 2013, something at work made me so angry that I couldn't ignore it. I decided to make a difference, and that decision has literally changed my life!

You can watch my story in the short video at this link HERE.

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Video Blog: How To Spot & Dodge A Bully FAST by Dr Flis

Video Blog:  How To Spot & Dodge A Bully FAST by Dr Flis

Ignoring a bully's behavior in the hopes that they'll get bored and just 'go away' is a recipe for disaster, and it will end up hurting you later on.

Without interruption, toxic behaviours ALWAYS escalate!

Read these fast, pithy facts to spot blatant and sneaky bully behaviours, AND organisational bully behaviours OR enroll for free on my fast 1 hour eCourse 'How To Quickly Recognise And Control A Workplace Bullying WITHOUT Getting Victimised.'

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How bullies fool you into believing it's YOUR fault:The Switch Technique by Dr Flis

How bullies fool you into believing it's YOUR fault:The Switch Technique by Dr Flis

How Bullies Use The SWITCH Technique

One of the most common methods used by bullies to fool you into believing, and accepting, that their bad behaviour is somehow your fault:

  • is to deliberately and rapidly SWITCH
  • from being warm, approachable and friendly
  • to suddenly and without notice
  • become dismissive, rude, bullying, threatening or abusive
  • usually as a consequence of some mistake or error that the bully (publicly) accuses you of doing - the mistake can be real, or a product of their imagination - it doesn't matter.

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Work Safety: Am I Being GROOMED By A Bully? by Dr Flis Lawrence

Work Safety: Am I Being GROOMED By A Bully? by Dr Flis Lawrence

One of the common tricks of any consistently manipulative and/or aggressively controlling individual is to trick YOU into believing that you are to blame for THEIR behaviour. Who am I talking about? Maybe a boss, supervisor, co-worker, colleague, staff member, or a client, customer or stakeholder.

One common method used by bullies to groom you into accepting that their behaviour as somehow YOUR fault, is to deliberately and rapidly SWITCH from being warm and friendly to suddenly aggressive, dismissive, rude or abusive. The bully infers that you are to blame for their abuse. Unless you cotton onto what's going on, you will most likely feel embarrassed or apologetic. You will assume that you're somehow in the wrong because this persistent & aggressive rudeness is so odd and unexpected. 

YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS BEHAVIOUR - NO-ONE DOES! NOR ARE YOU RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BULLY'S BEHAVIOUR.

Click on this link HERE to get my pithy, 1 hour free eCourse for tactics and tools to spot and stop bullies from hurting you: 'How To Quickly Recognise And Control A Workplace Bullying WITHOUT Getting Victimised.'

 Dr Flis Lawrence

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