Dealing with a rude, disrespectful direct report or staff? Are you feeling a bit stumped? Tips by Dr Flis

Dealing with a rude, disrespectful direct report or staff? Are you feeling a bit stumped? Tips by Dr Flis

Hi Dr Flis,

In the last month I was promoted to a manager position, which I first thought was awesome! Four weeks later and I’m struggling with a real pain in the neck.

One of my direct reports consistently interrupts me, sniggers or makes smart jokes at anything I say during meetings. I’ve tried to pull them up, but they ignore me. Their behaviour is also ignored or accepted by the rest of my team.  I’m in a new role and I don’t get why this person’s so special!

I just want to stop this behaviour before it impacts my team’s morale, and drives me insane.

Can you help me please?

Thanks Dr Flis,

Greg

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Why are we EMpowered as consumers, yet DISempowered as employees? Growing Healthy Work Cultures, by Dr Flis

Why are we EMpowered as consumers, yet DISempowered as employees? Growing Healthy Work Cultures, by Dr Flis

Why are we EMpowered as consumers, yet DIS-empowered as employees? How do we grow Healthy work cultures? And why do we accept these outdated 1990s mindsets that continue to influence and drive our workplaces?

"We are living in times of revolution and to survive and thrive, we have to think differently and make use of our inherent abilities." Sir Ken Robinson, Professor Emeritus.

What IS a healthy workplace culture and how is it formed? How do you recognise a healthy one if you stumbled upon it? What sort of things help to foster a reasonably risk-taking, highly creative and innovative, cooperative, collaborative work culture and associated behaviours - attitudes?

"Organisations are influenced by 1990s mindset and legislation that do not relate AT ALL to the existing workplaces. Existing law and policy settings are not fit for purpose." April 30, 2015, Australian Business Coucil President, Catherine Livingston

Creating healthy, respectful workplaces

Why do most private and public sector organisations struggle to grow and maintain healthy, respectful cultures? Is it because they're 'mentally' stuck in the 1990s and have convinced themselves that bullying, disrespect and rudeness at work is normal?

Do you want a simple, proven method to expertly grow and maintain a healthy, respectful work culture?

  • To get you started, download my BLUEPRINT HERE
  • For a tailored implementation plan to suit YOUR workplace needs, contact me at team@DrFlis.com or HERE.

By Dr Flis Lawrence

 

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3 safe strategies to recover from a sudden under-performance rating, by Dr Flis

3 safe strategies to recover from a sudden under-performance rating, by Dr Flis

Dr Flis Lawrence looks at three ways in which you can address the perception of workplace under-performance.

How to regain your professional status, self-esteem and self-confidence after suddenly and unexpectedly receiving an under-performance rating.

Reference: This article was published 14th August 2017 on SHPonline (click HERE to go to SHPonline).

By Dr Flis Lawrence

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Are you kidding? How can I 'suddenly' be rated 'UNDER-performing’ after all these years? by Dr Flis

Are you kidding? How can I 'suddenly' be rated 'UNDER-performing’ after all these years? by Dr Flis

Have you've suddenly been rated an 'under-performer' and are now seeking expert, confidential guidance on how to safely refute the allegations without escalating the situation? If so, click HERE to get my Guide 'Have You Been Surprised To Learn You're An Under-Performer?' Learn about my three strategies in this article.

Do you want more?

  • Click HERE to enrol for free on my 7 session course to help you expertly and safely deal with a workplace bullies.
  • Use these 7 strategies (plus more) to go out and grab the happiness & success at work (and life) that you deserve and home in on the special attributes that help YOU to shine in the world. TOOLBOX: Gaining Greater Happiness & Success At Work DESPITE The Toxic 'Workscape'
  • If you're seeking a expert, confidential coach to help you to safely deal with an unhealthy work issue (e.g., bullying), contact me at team@DrFlis.com or through my website www.DrFlis.com.

by Dr Flis Lawrence | team@DrFlis.com

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5 Steps To Stop Bullies From Tapping Into & Manipulating Your Deepest Fears, by Dr Flis

5 Steps To Stop Bullies From Tapping Into & Manipulating Your Deepest Fears, by Dr Flis

Are You A Slave To Your Internal Self-Critical voice?

DID YOU KNOW? Bullies are clever at tapping into, and manipulating, your internal self-critical beliefs, and using these against you.

Self-criticism is generally developed when we're very young and in our teenage years, when we experience criticism or disapproval from a key or important family member (mother, father, sibling) that leads us to develop the belief that we are inadequate, stupid, incompetent, or even friendless.

In adulthood, if we remain unaware of these critical 'stories', then we are more likely to interpret our life, our relationships - our reality - as evidence of our incompetence, inadequacy, or stupidity.

by Dr Flis Lawrence

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How to forge greater meaning, compassion & creativity at work without feeling stupid or looking foolish - by Dr Flis

How to forge greater meaning, compassion & creativity at work without feeling stupid or looking foolish - by Dr Flis

Often, one of our deepest human fears is to look weak, stupid, or even foolish in front of others - especially in the face of constant change or uncertainty. Wouldn't it be great to have a simple tool that helped us forge greater meaning, compassion and creativity in the workplace without feeling or looking foolish?

How The Workplace Wish List Works

Most workplaces now conduct annual well-being or health surveys or pulse surveys. While these approaches can home in on the issues you already suspect, or are actively seeking, they can overlook the hidden concerns, fears, issues, worries percolating behind the scenes. Sometimes, our deepest worries are the ones we're the most oblivious to UNTIL someone asks us to write them down.

Click HERE to get your 5 Minute Workplace Wish List

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Expertly dodging bad behaviour before it turns toxic, by Dr Flis

Expertly dodging bad behaviour before it turns toxic, by Dr Flis

Expertly spotting & dodging bad behaviour BEFORE it turns toxic on you.... means knowing when others are behaving badly AND cleverly dodging them & their drama when things turn sour!

We've all been to at least one family Christmas lunch or dinner when the family 'pain in the ****' sinks one too many sherbets and turn into a bully.

I'm sure it's no surprise to anyone that badly behaving work colleagues (staff, bosses, etc.) can also turn into bullies, given the right set of circumstances (and without the alcohol!)

Below are some of the more obvious bad behaviours that you can learn to quickly spot. I also give simple better practice dodging methods, so you can stop the work relationship turning sour or toxic on you.

By Dr Flis Lawrence

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Dr Flis: Your Secret Weapon In Safely Dealing With Bullies - Personal Power!

Dr Flis: Your Secret Weapon In Safely Dealing With Bullies - Personal Power!

Your Secret Weapon To Safely Dealing With Bullies Is By Using Your Personal Power. 19th century philosopher, Friedrich Nietzche, said that we create our own reality, which is created by our perspectives and filtered by our values and instincts. This means the only real control we have over anything, is HOW we choose to react to a situation, person or environment.

To get the full value out of this article by watching or listening to the short video snippet here, which I've taken from my 1 hour eCourse, 'How To Quickly Recognise & Control A Workplace Bully Without Getting Victimised', which you can enroll for free HERE.

by Dr Flis Lawrence

 

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Are They A Bully, Or Just Having A Bad Day? Spotting The Difference by Dr Flis

Are They A Bully, Or Just Having A Bad Day? Spotting The Difference by Dr Flis

Quickly spotting the difference between a person who's having a bad day, and a workplace bully, can be critical - especially for your mental health, well-being and performance AND how you deal with the situation. Why? If you ignore a bully in the hopes that they'll go away or get bored, then beware - you will likely get burnt!

Why?

 

Because you can't ignore the bully in the hopes that they'll go away or get bored! The bully doesn't get bored, and doesn't go away. Instead, they escalate their toxic behaviour and make your life miserable!

Skill-up FAST & enroll in my free 1 hr eCourse 'How To Quickly Recognise And Control A Workplace Bully Without Getting Victimised'. Get the tactics that will help to change your life forever WITHOUT getting burnt in the process!

by Dr Flis Lawrence

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